Are you trying to elicit pity from other people? To convince yourself that just because they accepted your friend request they desire to hear about every detail of your day?
They don't.
Some people do care to hear everything you have to say; to know about every thought that passes through your head and every thing that happens to you. Save it for them. By telling every single person on your friends list about your relationship woes, you are putting those people whom you truly care about, and who truly care about you, on the same level as that guy you met at a party that one time. If you desperately desire to document your every thought and action, buy a journal.
I know that nobody is being forced to remain your Facebook friend, or your Twitter follower, or whatever else (although some people would have you believe that to "unfriend" someone is akin to kicking their puppy or spreading a rumour that they still wet the bed). But seriously, before you decide to plaster your personal information all over the internet; before you start posting vague, passive-aggressive (not to mention immature) Facebook statuses about your latest breakup; before you choose to tweet about eating a sandwich, ask yourself two things:
1) If I reread this in a week/month/year/decade, will I be embarrassed?
2) Do I think that anybody else will care?
If you post less often, people will actually care when you do post. So unless you have been blessed with the ability to manipulate words until eating lunch sound like an event unto itself, keep it to yourself.
I have every desire to start posting excessively just to drive you bonkers.
ReplyDeleteHowever, I completely agree. Exactly how honest are you being if this "horrible thing" is easy to share with everyone?
That might produce the opposite of your desired effect.
ReplyDeleteExactly. Or, when someone asks what's wrong, you just post "msg me".
OH MY GOODNESS. When your "best friend" tells you something that you are forbidden to repeat and then you meet up with Friend #2 and she tells the same story! I don't understand that! Why do people pretend to have secrets?
ReplyDeleteI've never had that particular problem, but it does seem bizarre that someone would go to lengths to keep you from repeating something, and then repeat it. Unless they only trust themselves to tell the "right" people. Or they're just bored and want to create drama. That seems to be a common motivator.
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